This story was originally published on March 23, 2017.
You’ve probably heard that “it goes down in the DM,” but what is “it” and what exactly “goes down”? Trolling, sure, but also sometimes flirting. Look, you’re probably going to use social media to research your online dating matches anyways, so if you like what you see, going straight for the DM just skips a step. But take caution, for this move isn’t as simple as it seems: People are sensitive about their DMs, and sliding requires that your moves be smooth, so it demands a little more effort than just a double-tap or swipe right.
Ilana*, 24, who lives in New York City, met her boyfriend because he slid into her Instagram DMs. As the story goes, she listed her Instagram handle in her Bumble dating profile, and he found and followed her. “He slid into my DMs like three times, but I didn’t see them,” Ilana says. She doesn’t remember exactly what the messages said, but she thinks it was some form of “Hey” with the hugging emoji. “So finally I answered being like, ‘Sorry I never check these things!’ and we started chatting.” They’ve been together for …read more